Remember that leadership is about working with people and making choices as to how to approach them, how to motivate them. Are you making the right choices? In organisational terms, are you politically "well read" even if not politically motivated?7. But until then I can see that marriage offers Clem nothing that continuing to live together wouldn't offer just as well for the time being.Forget the age difference, have no regretsMy wife and I got together when she was 40 (with teenage children) and I was 26. Our friends told us (separately) "just enjoy your affair, but don't think of anything permanent".

However, we did make it permanent and had one daughter when she was 43 and another at 45 and many happy years together until she died suddenly two years ago from a heart attack at 77.Of course, there is a downside I'm suffering it now. The younger partner is always more likely to be left alone, but that's life. Better to live with happy memories than with regrets for what might have been. So, Clem, forget the age difference and try for children if that's what you both want.A young and active father who loves them and you can be a real partner and parent.IanLondon SW11Get on with it - there are no certaintiesWell, it needs to be good for you, too, and I'm assuming you know your man and are confident of his integrity.We have to move forward and there are no certainties. But your relationship as you describe it, and the goodwill surrounding it, are as promising a foundation as anyone could wish for to a new marriage.Moving forward means change, through maturity, sexual need, the effects of adversity. Awareness of the age gap will take a back seat, given a chance.